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Poetry for Morning {Frank O’Hara}

Morning

by Frank O'Hara

notes.

1. the last line of each stanza is often a mid-sentence break, which continues in the stanza below. insert mental punctuation where it gets confusing. for example, the first stanzas: I've got to tell you how I love you always. I think of it on grey mornings, with death in my mouth. The tea is never hot enough then, and the cigarette dry. The maroon robe chills me.

2. the feeling, often expressed in cliched phrases - I love you always, I need you, I miss you always - is balanced by the little details, the particulars, the things that don't seem to fit a love poem, exactly, but they end up making it more real: the buses glow, I stand rattling my keys, were there lots of anchovies.

3. the words in this poem are simple; the verbs are "to be" verbs or very low-key action verbs, such as "look," "hold," "stand." Even though we end up with several different place images (the speaker's home, the dock, the city streets, the parking lot, the beach, the night sky), we don't notice the movement as much as the the same feeling of loneliness and longing that stays present in the whole poem.

4. the last stanza - the culmination of these feelings - feels right because the earlier poem gives us "passenger" images: buses, car, bicycle. So when we get to that metaphor, it clicks into place and reiterates (without repeating) both the feelings and the images of the poem.

I've got to tell you cmorning
how I love you always
I think of it on grey
mornings with death

in my mouth the tea
is never hot enough
then and the cigarette
dry the maroon robe

chills me I need you
and look out the window
at the noiseless snow

At night on the dock
the buses glow like
clouds and I am lonely
thinking of flutes

I miss you always
when I go to the beach
the sand is wet with
tears that seem mine

although I never weep
and hold you in my
heart with a very real
humor you'd be proud of

the parking lot is snowmorning
crowded and I stand
rattling my keys the car
is empty as a bicycle

what are you doing now
where did you eat your
lunch and were there
lots of anchovies it

is difficult to think
of you without me in
the sentence you depress
me when you are alone

Last night the stars
were numerous and today
snow is their calling
card I'll not be cordial

there is nothing that
distracts me music is
only a crossword puzzle
do you know how it is

when you are the only
passenger if there is a
place further from me
I beg you do not go

Images courtesy of Igor Dugonjic and .Pete.

Regaining Control with a Morning Routine

Part 2 of the series: The Get-Your-Life-Together Plan

morning

Benefits of a Morning Routine

What you do with your morning effects your entire day. Energy begets energy. Order begets order. I don't always enjoy getting out of bed, but I enjoy what the rest of my day is like when I get out of bed on time and make myself go through my routine.
One morning not long ago, after a week of great consistency on my early rising and morning routine, I decided to try just going with the flow... ignoring routine, just doing what I felt like doing, taking it easy, rolling from one thing to the next 'as the spirit moved me.'
I decided that wasn't the right spirit for me. It's fine sometimes, for holidays and weekends, but the normal day of work requires order, energy, and a good dose of knowing who's in charge. When I just wander around, it's clear that I'm not Read the rest of this entry »

Getting Up Early

I hate this topic.

Why am I writing about this topic? I don't want to be up right now. It's 10:47 am. I've drunk 4 cups of coffee. I've written 2 blog posts, applied for one writing position, read, fed my babies breakfast, talked to my sister and my Dad, made bread, helped Marzipan sit on the kid-potty five times, and put the babies down for a nap. I want to put myself down for a nap.

I got up at 6:13 this morning. My alarm went off at 5:00. No, I didn't hit snooze. I got up, turned off my alarm, used the bathroom, nursed Wick, stared at the coffee brewing, and crawled back in bed. My husband is so warm and cozy. Bed is so warm and cozy. The computer is like an alien. The coffee maker is slow. It was still dark outside.

There was this one time when we stayed up waaay past midnight.

I did a monthly challenge of getting up early. It was difficult. I wasn't completely unsuccessful, but not consistent enough to make it a habit.

Since then I get up at 5 probably 3 or 4 days out of the week. The other days I sleep until 7 or 8, as late as the babies will let me. I like it when I get up at 5. I get lots done. I feel ahead. I write before anyone else is awake. I have ideas. I read the Bible. I pray. I think about the day. I know I would be calmer, happier, and more productive if I would get up early every morning.

It's still a challenge, obviously. Sometimes I just don't want to get up. Sometimes it's because my night-owl husband kept me awake until 1am. I'm not sure what to do about that yet.

I did some internet research on this How to Get Up Early topic.

It's hand-in-hand with productivity gurus, entrepreneurism, life hacks, zen-ism, and other continuing, popular blog discussions. I make fun of these discussions, but I like them. I read them. I'm interested. I want to be a life-hacking, zen-thinking, productive entrepreneurial guru too. Apparently I have to get up early in order to achieve that goal.

Here's what they say:

  • Steve Pavlina: If you don't get up early you're wasting a lot of time. You should get up early.
  • Leo Babauta: If you don't get up early you're wasting a lot of time. You should get up early.
  • Dave Cheong: If you don't get up early you're wasting a lot of time. You should get up early.
  • Matthew Stibbe: If you don't get up early you're wasting a lot of time. You should get up early.
  • An entire blog on early rising: If you don't get up early you're wasting a lot of time. You should get up early.

I've paraphrased them all a bit. I don't know why I can't get this idea out of my head:

If you don't get up early you're wasting a lot of time. You should get up early.

I want to, I really do. I'll be back later with more on this. Maybe early tomorrow morning...

I Like Quoting Smart People

It’s a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it. — W. Somerset Maughan

 

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