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The Secret to a Happy Family 1

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Written by Annie on 24th Feb -10

If we are ever to enjoy life, now is the time, not tomorrow or next year…. Today should always be our most wonderful day.

-Thomas Dreier

The Witching Hour

Every day, just before the time my husband is going to get home from work, something strange happens in my home. The kids have just had a long nap and a snack, but they get inexplicably whiny. The house looks dirty all of a sudden. The pile of laundry on the bed increases fourfold. The plans I had for dinner seem inadequate, and my feet hurt, my back hurts, my head hurts, and what-I-wouldn’t-give for a little peace and quiet…

Welcome home, honey.

I’m embarrassed at the times Joe’s walked in the door to that atmosphere. It seems like on those days, when I’ve “just had it” and all I need is a little relief, he’s just had it at work too.

I’m drained; he’s drained. All I want is to sit down; all he needs is a little rest. My day was constantly busy, but seems unproductive now; his, too. The kids are clamoring for our attention, and when Joe and I meet eyes it’s with a mutual question of “How soon can bedtime come?”

Whose Fault Is It, Anyway?

I blame it on the undone items, usually. If I hadn’t had so much to do, if I’d gotten a bit more done, if the continue reading…

Respect That Roars Comments Off

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Written by Annie on 23rd Feb -10

A stifled personality does not a happy marriage make.


Walking the Tight Rope

When you start writing about marriage from a Biblically based perspective, you can’t avoid using words like “reverence” and even “submission.” Horrors. And though you try to give advice that stays true to Biblical principles while still making sense in our culture, it’s difficult. There will be some who say you’re too conservative, a fanatic, a freak, out of touch. Others will say you’re shallow, affected by the culture, misinterpreting what the Bible says.

Everybody’s Right, Everybody’s Wrong

There is danger in any sort of marriage advice, even when it is based on something good. The danger is that we often take principles and turn them into methods. Then we cling to our methods, even when they cease to be helpful. continue reading…

How to Quit Being a Victim Comments Off

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Written by Annie on 21st Feb -10

Behind Door #1…

Victims put the blame elsewhere. Victims are passive. Victims wear chains. Victims are limited. Victims are unable to change. Victims put the power of change away from themselves. Victims are the powerless slaves of others, of moods, of circumstances. Victims submit.

And Behind Door #2…

Responsible people take the blame for their own failures. They assume the power of change. They are active. They are free. They can change. They make things happen. They set their own limits. They choose their own destiny. They take charge of their own thoughts, emotions, relationships, and situations. They decide.

Which one are you? continue reading…

Marriage Killer: Careless Words 5

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Written by Annie on 20th Feb -10

A foolish woman is clamorous. She is simple and knows nothing.

(Proverbs 9:13)


O Ye Clamoring Women

Clamorous: “to make a loud sound like Engl. hum); by implication, to be in great commotion or tumult, to rage, war, moan, clamor” from Scripture Text.

What does clamorous look like? In a clamorous wife, this is what you’ll see:

  • A woman who continually questions direct authority (her husband), often by appealing to a different (or what she considers “higher”) authority)
  • A woman who refuses to let her husband make decisions (big or small) with giving her input
  • A woman who gets offended if her husband dares to make a decision without getting her input first
  • A woman who is not content to be quiet and just see what happens
  • A woman who is not willing to let a mistake go unmentioned
  • A woman who nags
  • A woman who nitpicks about details
  • A woman who makes everything a big deal

Let’s Zoom In

Here’s a more specific version of what a clamorous wife might look like: continue reading…

7 Things To Do for a Better Marriage Today 1

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Written by Annie on 19th Feb -10

Know the true value of time; snatch, seize, and enjoy every moment of it. No idleness, no laziness, no procrastination: never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.

-Philip Dormer Stanhope


#1: Take Ten

Find ten minutes today to read the Bible and pray: for your husband, your marriage, your own heart.

My Pastor suggests a chapter in Psalms and a chapter in Proverbs each day. Start with the one that corresponds to today’s date and go from there.

Or choose only a verse or two to read and meditate upon. Let the Word of God sink into your heart.

Praying is simply a conversation with God. You talk and you listen. Be honest. Out loud or silent, it doesn’t matter. God can hear your heart. continue reading…

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