Courtship isn’t just that time, pre-marriage, when we spend lots of money on flowers and little stuffed animals and cell phone bills. Courtship is any kind of conscious behavior that displays affection, attentiveness, and attraction toward the one you love. The amazing thing about courtship is that it also tends to produce affection, attentiveness, and attraction from the one you love toward you. That’s what we call a mutually beneficial arrangement.
If you’ve tossed the idea of courtship out as too old-fashioned for your modern dating philosophy or too demeaning for your tolerant mindset or too much work for your stuck-in-a-rut relationship, stop and think. Any successful romantic relationship requires affection, attention, and attraction.The behavior of courtship is the ideal way to demonstrate those traits, whether you are winning a new love or reaffirming an older one. continue reading…