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Resolved (I Hope): A New Year of Wisdom Comments Off

Silly Me

It’s kind of funny. It’s actually January 2 as I write this post intended to grace the front page on January 1st. I was trying to get in on that whole new-year-resolutions craze. Silly. Silly because I’m at my sister’s house.

We spent the morning drinking coffee and trying to recover from lack of sleep while keeping our kids in a semi-clothed, fed, and healthy state. We watched the Rose Bowl Parade. We plowed through leftovers for lunch, talked, and tried to pry our male counterparts away from their iphones and laptops. We weren’t successful until after dinner, at which point we had to all pitch in and take care of getting kids ready for bed. Then we all sat around and played Quelf, Bananagrams, and Gin Rummy until about 5 minutes to midnight.

End Day 1 of my newly (un)resolved life.

All day long, as I could steal a few minutes here and there, I was working on a couple of posts to put up on Sister Wisdom today. But all day long, too much other great stuff was happening.

So I don’t have any really great inspirational ideas to share, no ten-steps to success or a helpful list of any kind. Instead, here are a few “snapshots” from my day: continue reading…

Lessons from Nemo (It’s okay to look stupid.) 2

Scary Nemo...

It’s a movie day.

Mara and Robbie watched a Baby Einstein while they ate breakfast, and now they’re almost through “Finding Nemo.” And it’s not even 11:00…

Didactic Disney

The Disney movies are almost all didactic; I don’t like all the lessons they try to teach, but in the Nemo case I do. Dorie and Marlin are the example, the dichotomy through the movie. Marlin is anxious, nervous, stressed, fearful, paralyzed. Dorie is happy-go-lucky, adventurous, inquisitive, good-natured, joyful.

The Dichotomy

Marlin remembers every hurt, every pain, every fear realized.

Dorie forgets.

Marlin nurses his wounds, counts his scars, and resents.

Dorie accepts what comes her way, forgets the details, and sees life as an adventure.

Of course, the plot is set up so Marlin learns the lesson: continue reading…

Quit Praying So Much? Comments Off

praying

In my own words, here’s what my sister shared with me from her pastor: pray once. Then hush and have faith. God heard you. He’s not deaf.


What a concept. So may times we’re busy bruising our knees to convince God of our need, and perhaps better would to be ask with faith and then to continue about our business…


‘And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own business, and to work with your own hands as we commanded you; that ye may walk honestly toward them that are without, and that ye may have lack of nothing.” {1 Thess 4:11,12}

What if I truly lived that way? The Bible says to pray without ceasing. Why do we think that means for the same thing, over and over and over again? Why don’t we hush sometimes and give God time to work according to his plan and priorities?

Mara asks for water in her princess cup, or food, or help, or play-dough; I answer, “I’m getting it now, just a moment,” or “Not now,” or “Yes, in a few minutes.” When she keeps asking I say, “No more asking. You already have my answer.”

I need to apply this instruction to myself. What if, what if? What if we went about our business and took every new thing, moment, idea, hurt, need to God as we worked with our own hands? What if the ceaseless prayer wasn’t repetition of what we’re letting ourself worry about or wanting most, but was a continual lifting up, accepting, praising, thanking, listening?

What kind of wisdom does He pour out that we miss because we’re too busy telling HIm why we need wisdom? How many problems solved if we quit nagging Him and just asked, once, then quietly and confidently went about our business, listening to and thanking Him as we did?


You may pray for an hour and still not pray. You may meet God for a moment and then be in touch with Him all day.  {Fredrik Wisloff}

Accustom yourself gradually to carry Prayer into all your daily occupation — speak, act, work in peace, as if you were in prayer, as indeed you ought to be.  {François Fénelon}


There is not in the world a kind of life more sweet and delightful than that of a continual conversation with God.  {Brother Lawrence}

Image courtesy of Rassing. Quotes from Tentmaker.org.

A Birthday Manifesto {2009} 1

It’s my 28th birthday today.

I am thankful for my life today,

for the opportunity I have each morning to be alive, to be whole, to be free, and to be with the people I love. Each day is rich and full.

The lines have fallen to me in pleasant places. I live with dreams and ideas and a reality full of wonder. I still believe in God, in goodness, in love, in absolutes – not because I always want to, but because it makes sense. I still believe fairies live in my flower garden – not because it makes sense, but because I want to.

I am thankful for new starts,

for fresh starts, reset buttons, and time-outs for grown-ups. I am thankful for the ability to feel, even when that means feeling pain. I am thankful for the freedom to say no, to live simple, to create my own enjoyment in life, to ignore negative people and to focus on all things bright and beautiful.

I am thankful for long walks, long naps, long conversations, and all of them being constantly interrupted by my children, because that means that they are whole, safe, happy, and with me.

I love this crazy hectic rushing pausing living breathing dancing feeling falling seeing hearing loving being doing running resting thing we have, this life, these moments strung together, these fly-by days, these vanishing hours.

I love the promise of eternity,

the hope spreading before me, the future opening up for me, limitless in scope.

I choose to dwell in possibility. I choose joy. I claim every wonder as a personal gift to me from the Maker. I relish the taste of each day I am given, I look toward the sun, I accept the clouds and the rain, I believe in redemption.

Everywhere I look I see the possibility of joy.

This year I am letting fly, loosing the things less-than-best. This year I am ignoring details to focus on one important thing at a time. This year I give myself the gift of order and discipline, which comes with a free trial pack of guilt-free, worry-free time-off-for-rest-and-renewal.

This year I will cancel my subscription to Worry Magazine, decline the offers for 1/2 off on “Comparing Yourself to Others: the Series” and will spend the time I save on the better classics:

  • Guilt-Free Living
  • Time with Family
  • Prayer
  • Fulfilling Work

This year my word is joy.

This year I will give more time to books and less time to the Internet. I will memorize poetry and ignore the news. I will sing songs instead of whining. I will go on dates with my husband, teach my daughter her letters, and cuddle my swiftly growing sons.

I will play in the dirt, climb trees, forget my weight, give more gifts, and accept the gifts I am given with a heart of gratitude and a life of grace.

Go then, eat your bread in happiness, and drink your wine with a cheerful heart; for God has already approved your works. Let your clothes be white all the time and let not oil be lacking on your head. Enjoy life with the one you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given to you under the sun; for this is your reward in life, and in your toil in which you have labored under heaven. Whatever your hands find to do, do it with all your might.  {Ecclesiastes 9:7 – 10}

I dwell in Possibility–
A fairer House than Prose–
More numerous of Windows–
Superior–for Doors–

Of Chambers as the Cedars–
Impregnable of Eye–
And for an Everlasting Roof
The Gambrels of the Sky–

Of Visitors–the fairest–
For Occupation–This–
The spreading wide my narrow Hands
To gather Paradise–

{Emily Dickinson}

Death machine, I will conquer you! + This Week’s Menu 1

conquerwomanOver the weekend, Joe and I decided that the “taking family walks in the evening” plan wasn’t working. Okay, actually, it was more like this:
Annie: “I’m melting! I’m melting! It’s soo o ooo o ooo hot! I can’t walk in this heat. I will die. I will surely die. and If I don’t die, then I will kill you for making me come out in this horrible horrible weather.”
Joe: “Um…okay…would you like to join the gym, maybe, inste-”
Annie: “YES! Air conditioning! YES! Gym! YES! I like! Oh, sorry, hon, were you saying something else?”

This morning I got up and went to the gym and worked out in the beautifully air-conditioned space. It’s one of those 24/7, let yourself in deals. I was the only one there at 4:45am (weird, don’t more people just love getting to the gym at 4:45 am? No?) and so it was like I had my own private air-conditioned gym. I still couldn’t change the channels on the televisions, though…

Another lady got there while I was mid-way through my graceful cardio huffing-puffing-nearly-keeling-over-20-excruciating-minutes-on-the-elliptical-death-machine portion of my work-out. I didn’t mind sharing my gym space by that time. I was just glad someone else was there to pour a little water on my face in case I fainted and fell off when the demon machine upped the resistance again.  Beauty is just so painful sometimes.

So, in unrelated news, here’s my menu for the week.

  • Monday: fish curry, brown rice, strawberries & pineapple. I’m a little nervous about this because our neighbors are coming over for dinner and Shema (the Mr.) is from Sri Lanka. He’s Hindu, so he doesn’t eat meat, which is no problem since we like fish anway. But 1) I’ve never made curry with fish before and 2) I’m cooking curry for a man who knows what REAL curry should be like and makes it and consumes it regularly. I have a strong suspicion that my Americanized version of curry is nothing like Shema’s authentic curry… oh well. It’s the thought, right…?
  • Tuesday: Stuffed pitas + clean out veggies in fridge: corn on the cob, green beans, and salad. I’m not sure what I’ll stuff the pitas with yet: maybe this or maybe something more substantial, though with ground beef or turkey instead of lamb. Don’t have much lamb sitting in my freezer these days… weird. :)
  • Wednesday: Joe’s day off! Big brunch mid-morning (sausage or bacon, pancakes, eggs) then veggie stirfry and noodles for dinner.
  • Thursday: Pasta carbonara…some kind of side…
  • Friday: Broiled tilapia, oven fries, marinated carrots.
  • Saturday: Zugu & meatballs (and pasta to eat it on, of course).
  • Sunday: We’re either doing fellowship lunch at church or birthday dinner at the in-laws; I’ll grate some cheese to make quesadillas for supper in case we’re home by then and hungry again.
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Image Credit: jynmeyer on stock.xchng. Yeah, I’m not quite ready to put up a picture of myself, post-workout. Maybe someday…

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