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If you’re female, I’m a little mad at you today 3

You know what I’m tired of, right now? Whining women. Seriously. What is wrong with us?

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Halfway across the world, a Haitian woman digs through the rubble looking for her baby’s body.
Halfway across the county, a single mom counts food stamps to see if she has enough for her groceries.
Halfway across the living room, a man sits who has loved you and worked to keep you happy, fed, clothed, and satisfied to the best of his abilities. He isn’t perfect. He does stupid, annoying stuff that makes you want to scream. But there he is.

And there you are, in a warm home with every material blessing you need for a happy life. There’s no practical concern stopping you from being happy, but you go back to whining. So do I. It’s pointless and selfish. It’s pure poison.

Whining women get on my nerves.

How did we get this way? Why do we listen to the stereotypes pushed around by our culture? Why do we make stupid jokes and snide little remarks about our men? Why do we not defend them, encourage them, support them, back them up, and find a way to see in them the best they can be? That is our job. continue reading…

Recommended Reading, Issue #1 1

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From the feed reader…

  • Abby at New Urban Habitat, Frugal isn’t cheap: “But frugality can be more fun than the mindless consuming many of us got in the habit of doing in the previous decade, because we end up spending money on what we really want.”
  • Rachel at Small Notebook, My Real-Life, Practical Daily Routine: “Instead of having a schedule that would be ignored day after day in real life, I follow a daily routine of touchstones — key elements to mark a successful day.
  • Philip Brewer at Wise Bread, What I’ve Been Trying to Say: “You can’t go back and change decisions that have already been made, but that doesn’t mean that the design for the rest of your life is immutable.  Start today to design the life that you want to be living.”

From the bookshelf…

  • Eleanor Roosevelt, You Learn By Living

Read my full review here.

Mini Review: Practical advice for personal growth and a successful life, from the era before self-improvement was the big market share it is now. Roosevelt is easy to read and understand but profound. Her advice is practical, with personal examples, and I found myself copying lots of quotes and wanting to paste them all over the walls in my bedroom.
Find it on Amazon.

  • Mindy Stearns Clark, The House That Cleans Itself

Mini Review: If you’re not a natural housekeeping/organizing goddess, you will love this book. The concept is that instead of fighting our naturally slobbish tendencies (or those of family members), we should identify them and create systems that work for us instead of against us. Brilliant! I love this! I always feel like housekeeping is a battle, and I’ve already used some of her ideas and seen some of the most irritating problems get much, much better. I’m going to be tackling more of my house this year and Clark’s book is my guide.
Find it on Amazon.

What’s your recommended reading this week?
Join in by linking up your post, or simply share in the comments below.

Heads Up! Recommended Reading coming to – 1

Edit: This was supposed to be posted last night, but I had some intense disagreements with my computer. My husband had to mediate, and we finally came to a happy, working agreement this morning… So:

Heads Up! Recommended Reading coming today!

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Here’s the deal: I love reading. I love reading great blogs and articles online, and I adore (as in, extreme twitterpation and heart palpitation) a great book.
On the other hand, I despise wasting my time on sub-par writing of any kind. I find, however, it’s sometimes hard to put your finger on that great article or post or book or magazine you’re wanting, when you’re ready for your next great read.

Thus Recommended Reading is born.

Every Friday I’ll be posting a list of what I’ve read lately that (I think) is worth reading: books, blogs, and otherwise which I can whole-heartedly recommend to you.

I’m hoping some of you smart women will join with me and either put up a post or leave a comment with your own recommended reading, because, see, this is all kind of self-serving. I get kind of, uh, tense (hyperventilating, spasms, hives, stuff like that), when I don’t know what I’m going to read next. So if I can get some great recommendations, I can keep myself from those ugly little episodes.
I will thank you.
My whole family will thank you.

Tune in tomorrow later today for the first issue of Recommended Reading! I’ll include a Mr Linky so you can link up if you’ve written a post. And here’s a bloggie icon you can use to link back if you’d like.

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Happy Reading! See you tomorrow.

5-Minute Motivation: Your Power to Influence for Good 1

The most potent influence for good that the world knows is a whole minded Christian home.
In such a home the life of the parents expresses their convictions rather than their frailties and their instruction of the children in the truths of the Christian faith is easy and natural, for it is but an explanation of the motives which actually determine the behavior which the children see and the conditions of life which they share.
Such a home is quiet, unhurried, without strain and stress.

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The feelings and emotions inducted within the children by the contagion of sympathy are unhectic, sound, and wholesome.
The suggestions of such a home are in right directions, its unconscious models worthy of imitation.
Its authority is reasonable, its spirit that of mutual affection, its members are friends and comrades who stick together in work and in play.

In such a home the kingdom of God begins to come on earth,

that Kingdom which will come fully when all men realize that they have one Father and are brethren.
To such a home many of us can look back, and we thank God that it imparted its spirit, not just by precept or instruction, but by the uncounted, unintended vital influences of its atmosphere.
Text from “ The Training of Children in the Christian Home” by Luther Allan Weigle.

A Happy Medium and other housekeeping myths 1

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I was reading a book about how to organize your house (because although I’m not organized, I enjoy reading about how I could be if I bought a label maker, got rid of 50% of our possessions, and didn’t have children, or had children who were more like robots…)and I came across this little list. I liked it, at first. Here. Read it. You’ll probably like it too.

Common Practices of Good Housekeepers

1. Find a happy medium where everybody is comfortable.
2. Pick things up as you go.
3. Avoid putting things down temporarily.
4. “A place for everything and everything in its place.”
5. Mental list of small jobs to do in a few minutes.
6. Stay busy; don’t allow things to get ahead of you.
7. Believe it is important to live in a peaceful, uncluttered environment.
8. Love, need, and use everything in your home.
9. Buy fewer, but higher quality, things.
10. Do it now or don’t do it.
( Ellen Sandbeck, Organic Housekeeping)

“A Happy Medium”

Then I started thinking about rule practice #1: “Find a happy medium where everybody is comfortable.

Allow me to describe the everybody and how they are comfortable.

1. The husband. Packrat, visionary, creative, tends to accumulate tools (large) and projects. Swings between a perfectionist attention to detail (due to German ancestry) and a spontaneous, committed-to-the-moment unawareness of the mounds of mess accumulating as a result of “the moment.” I have a feeling that my lack of organization bothers him but he’s too sweet to complain.
2. The daughter, 3 1/2. Nothing makes her happier than cutting one big piece of paper into a thousand tiny pieces of paper, or rolling one big lump of play-dough into a thousand tiny lumps of play-dough.
3. The son, 2. The more trains, the better. The more trucks, the better. The more cars, the better. The more tractors, the better. The more blocks, the better. The more tools, the better. The more floor space covered by aforementioned trains, trucks, cars, tractors, blocks, and tools, the better.
4. The baby, 9 months. His motto: “It’s not really a meal unless there’s as much on the floor and as much on your face as there is in your belly.”

So I’m just going to admit here and now that when it comes to a happy medium, the only person whose comfort concerns me is ME. Is that wrong? Selfish? Short-sighted? Unfair?

Nah. Because there’s one common practice missing from that list. It’s not a practice so much as a truth. My Daddy used to say this, and he’s a wise man. My husband says this, and he is also a wise man.

#11: If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.

Furthermore, I think we should all agree that #11 trumps all the other 10 rules practices.

The End.

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