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Looking Back, Looking Forward 2

5:00 on a December evening;

it’s dark outside, but all ten of us are indoors, getting dinner ready, dodging children at play, checking email, drinking coffee, talking, laughing, being quiet, being together.

I sit down to nurse my youngest; next to me, my sister is burping baby Carson, the newest member at only 7 weeks old. The other four kids are scattered around the house. Baby Einstein is on but nobody’s watching. The kitchen smells good, like gooey butter cookies and sausage balls.

My Mom would love this. mom2007

Family gatherings were her forte. She lived for these moments, loved them, loved us all being home, loved the slightly controlled chaos that followed, loved her grandchildren.

She knew my sister’s two oldest and my firstborn; I was pregnant with my second when Mom died in the summer of 2007. Before the cancer made her too sick to leave the house, she bought a blue baby blanket, confident that I was having a boy.

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Pride Wants to Make a Presentation 2

I took a walk this morning, and was so proud for making myself get up and go around the block. In that glow of self-satisfaction (how little it takes for me to get there…), I stepped around the corner and saw our house, our yard, our patio, our garage, our overgrown garden area, our junk, our toys, our mess. The glow turned gray. I walked around and around, I tried to make a plan for making it all disappear.

Pride wants to make a presentation.

I don’t like the clutter. I don’t like the junk. I don’t like the mess and the weeds and the lack and I don’t want to be represented by it.
But you know what?

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But I Really LIKE Being In Charge of Other People 1


“You’re not well-rounded unless you’re bipolar.” -Joe

There are many tangled messes that other people are in, from which I would like to extricate them. (Mainly because I enjoy using the word extricate.) I know, however, that if the same habits, thought-patterns, etc., remain, there will soon be another mess just like (or worse than) the first.

I do no one a favor by fixing a problem that isn’t mine, not to mention that I usually can’t fix it in the first place.

But I really like to worry. And I really, really like to worry about other people’s problems.

It’s so easy, so habitual for me to pick up worry and carry it around. It’s kind of like a security blanket. Big, comforting, and gets in the way. Slows me down. I’m always dragging it in the dirt and ending up with a whole trail of mud and dead leaves behind me… continue reading…

5-Minute Motivation: Success Is Inevitable Comments Off

The Lord takes pleasure in the prosperity of His servant.

Commit to your own success. in the arms of the angel

Shoot for the highest possible goal.

Take yourself seriously.

Get rid of the physical irritations: do it.
Face the fear of success: overcome it.

Let go of things that don’t belong to you.

Be enthusiastic! Overzealous! Passionate! Annoying! Go for it!
You’re not just like everybody else.

You’re not a cynic; you’re a dreamer.

Dream without reservation.
Write without hearing the critic’s voice.
Act without questioning your ability.
Be true and real and honest.
If it isn’t working, kill it.

Start over. Commit.

Dream. Speak your dreams.
Believe. Reach. Don’t stop.
Failure is not inevitable. Obstacles are part of the process.

With diligence, success IS inevitable.

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Lessons from Nemo (It’s okay to look stupid.) 2

Scary Nemo...

It’s a movie day.

Mara and Robbie watched a Baby Einstein while they ate breakfast, and now they’re almost through “Finding Nemo.” And it’s not even 11:00…

Didactic Disney

The Disney movies are almost all didactic; I don’t like all the lessons they try to teach, but in the Nemo case I do. Dorie and Marlin are the example, the dichotomy through the movie. Marlin is anxious, nervous, stressed, fearful, paralyzed. Dorie is happy-go-lucky, adventurous, inquisitive, good-natured, joyful.

The Dichotomy

Marlin remembers every hurt, every pain, every fear realized.

Dorie forgets.

Marlin nurses his wounds, counts his scars, and resents.

Dorie accepts what comes her way, forgets the details, and sees life as an adventure.

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